Adultery = Destruction

There is no way around that. Adultery and destruction go hand in hand. Adultery is based on lies and deceit so how can it be anything but destruction? I shared a couple of days ago about how adultery leads to disaster and yesterday I shared how to reduce the risks of adultery.  If those points haven’t convinced you that adultery is dangerous and a very bad choice, I hope that what I share with you today will.

As I pointed out in the previous two posts, this series that I’ve written are based on points taken from our pastor’s sermon that he shared this week from a series called How to Wreck Your Life in 5 Easy Steps.  Adultery is not something I have ever had to worry about in my own marriage.  My husband and I have had our share of problems that we’ve had to deal with but adultery has never been one of them.  We are both 100% committed to each other and making sure our marriage truly does last until death so doing things to jeopardize that by doing anything inappropriate with the opposite sex has just never been something we were willing to do.  So as our pastor began preaching this sermon we were, quite honestly, cracking jokes to each other at the beginning when he talked about the percentages of people who commit adultery by the age of forty because it’s just so foreign to us!  (Being that we are both so close to forty we were saying we don’t have much time left to make the statistic.  Of course we were TOTALLY kidding!)

As the message went further and further, though, it really began to get to me.  When he reached the point where he began to talk about the destruction to the family I literally lost it.  I was sitting in church just weeping.  I think my husband was a little concerned at first (not that he became unconcerned mind you!) but then he figured out why I was having so much trouble and whispered in my ear to ask, “Are you thinking about your parents?”  Yes.  That’s exactly what I was thinking.  You see, my family was ripped apart when I was a young child and it is still devastating.  That’s not something that ever goes away.

One of the most powerful statements our pastor made through this whole sermon was when he said that you need to visualize the destruction that this will cause if you are anywhere close to thinking about adultery.  He said to think about telling your children that you are leaving the family and destroying everything you have built so that you can go be with another person.  That’s when I lost it.  Because that’s what my dad did.  Not that he sat down and told us that but he left and went to be with another woman.  He created another family for himself and left us behind.  I would go visit him at few times throughout the year each year as I grew up but things were never the same again.  I did not get to grow up with a daddy.  I did not have a father there when I needed one.  I still don’t have a relationship with him and, for the most part, I have moved on and I’m okay with that but deep down it still hurts very much.  There are times, even as an adult, when a girl just needs a daddy.  I don’t have that.  And it really stinks!

So, if you are thinking that an “innocent” business meeting is no big deal – think again.  If you think that an “innocent” business trip is no big deal – think again.  If you think that talking to the opposite sex about anything personal – especially your marriage – is no big deal – think again.  These things, and SO many more, lead to the path of destruction called adultery.  Protect yourself, protect your spouse, and protect your children – don’t put yourself in situations that have the potential to lead to disaster.

You know, we all may sit and think that it will never happen to us but it really just takes little steps here and there moving in that direction and then, before you know it, you’ve done something you shouldn’t have.  Watch the sermon.  He gives a GREAT example of little steps that a lot of people probably think are innocent that will lead to disaster.  You never know, it might save your family.