Title: Ford County: Stories

Author: John Grisham

ISBN: 978-0-385-53245-7

Genre: Fiction

Pages: 308

Publisher: Doubleday

Rating: 4 stars

I always love John Grisham’s books and this one did not disappoint!  It’s different from most of his others – it’s short stories rather than one novel and they aren’t suspense or legal stories like his others.  I did enjoy them very much though.  I’m not always a fan of short stories because it seems like a lot of times they kind of leave you hanging and wanting more but these didn’t do that – they were written in such a way that the story was wrapped up and finished by the end and I was satisfied with how it turned out.  I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who loves good fiction stories.

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I think gossip is one of those things that just kind of gets laughed about and brushed under the rug as no big deal.  I’m here to tell you it IS a big deal.

There is a situation that I am involved in right now that is making me very uncomfortable and it’s mostly because of gossip.  I don’t like gossip.  I’m not going to go so far as to say I’ve never done it because I think it’s one of those things like lying – we don’t want to do it, we know it’s wrong, but sometimes we catch ourselves doing it.  It’s frustrating!

But anyway, gossip can turn someone’s opinion of another person into a completely different direction if you’re not careful.  And the old adage is true – there ARE two sides to every story.  I know a lot of us, including me, like to think our side is the “right” side and that we are always right but unfortunately that’s not true.  We ARE wrong sometimes, we DO get mistaken ideas about people, we DO misread situations.  It’s not fair to tell other people something negative about someone because you aren’t happy with them at the time or you think something happened a different way.

I had a situation yesterday where three or four different people were talked about in a totally negative way – things were said that totally turned people’s opinion of these people in a different direction.  They now may think they are “bad” people or people that they shouldn’t be around.  It’s ridiculous!  I know these people and they AREN’T bad people!  I also (kind of) know both sides of a couple of the stories and I know that the facts are not what are being shared.  I really think things have been blown out of proportion and only one side of the story has been told but conclusions have immediately been drawn and now I’m afraid these people have a “bad” reputation.

It just makes me so sad.  And the hard part is, I really don’t see a solution to the problem.  I don’t see a way to fix it.  It’s something I’ve been praying about for quite a while and will continue to do so but it’s so hard.  I just pray that God moves in these people’s hearts and shows them that what they are doing is wrong.  Will you pray with me?  I know you don’t know the people or the situation but I would sure appreciate a quick little prayer even as you read this!!

The moral of the story…think before you speak.  Just like mommas always say, if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say anything.

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Today is the celebration of an amazing day in history.  It marks the day that Jesus conquered death and Satan once and for all.  He was resurrected just as it was foretold in Scripture and conquered death to save us from our sins.

If you were not able to attend a church service today or were just not willing, I would invite you to Life Church online today and for the rest of this week.  Pastor Craig gave an amazing message today, as he does every week, and I think you would really learn a lot from it.  Please, take a few minutes out of your day and watch this powerful message!!

(Once this week has passed you may find it as the fifth week in the Red Letter Day series in the archives.)

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I don’t really mean that the way most people might think though.  Oh, yes, back in the days when my kids were little I did mean it that way, but now it’s different.  It’s hard work for the heart now.

Watching my kids grow older is so bittersweet.  The sweet is that they are growing into wonderful young adults with such great personalities and they have such strong thoughts and opinions – of which I am very proud… most of the time.  haha!   They aren’t afraid to be themselves, they aren’t afraid to stand for what they believe in, they are fun to be with, they are just all in all great people!

The bitter part is that the more they grow and the more mature they get, that means they are so much closer to flying the coop.  My daughter will be a senior in high school next year.   Even though she hasn’t decided exactly what she will choose for living arrangements for her freshman year of college, I figure I have one year left with her as my baby girl.  Yes, she will always be my baby girl but I’m sure it’s very different when they don’t live with you.

If she chooses to move into a dorm or an apartment with some friends, I won’t get to see her beautiful, smiling face every morning when she wakes up (okay – maybe not right when she wakes up!) nor will I see it every night when she goes to bed.  I won’t get a sweet hug and kiss before bed every night.  I won’t get to laugh with her throughout the day.  It’s going to be hard.

Don’t get me wrong…I don’t wish to hold her back and hold her here with me.  I am excited about her future.  I’m excited about the experiences she will get to have in college, I’m excited about the new friends she will make, I’m excited about the classes she is looking forward to taking, I’m excited to see what her future holds for her.  But I’m still sad to see her go.

And I can guarantee you I will cry when that day comes and she moves into a new place.

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I’ve been thinking about marriage lately.  I wrote some posts awhile back about adultery and those are continually my most read posts (you can read them here if you wish – part 1, part 2, and part 3).   I’m not sure if I should be sad about that or glad.  On one hand, I’m sad because that means that a lot of people are dealing with adultery, which I know should not be a shocker to me but still…I hate that for them.   On the other hand, I’m glad that people are searching for answers and I can only pray that maybe something that they find and read, whether it be here or elsewhere, will help them make the decision NOT to commit adultery.

I say all of that to say that marriage is not a piece of cake.  It’s not just something that you decide to do one day and life is pure bliss for the rest of your days.  Marriage is hard work, marriage requires compromise, marriage requires sacrifice, and most of all marriage requires a choice - a choice to love.  Many people think that when you “fall in love” that those emotions that you have at that time will last forever.  Then when those feelings start to change, because I can guarantee you they will, they decide that they aren’t “in love” anymore and they walk away from what used to be a good marriage. Emotions change over time – they go up and down and never stay constant.  Love is not an emotion – it is a choice.

Marriage is something you have to actively participate in every day, you have to actively make the decision to love your spouse, you have to be fully committed to upholding the vows that you made on your wedding day.  I’m not trying to make it sound like it’s always a hard thing to do – most days it’s a very easy thing to do!  But there are those days where we are struggling and we are mad and we are wondering what we got ourselves into!  ;)   On those days, it’s vitally important that you make the choice to love.

My husband and I have been married for nineteen years.  We have had a lot of hard times, a lot of struggles in our marriage, but we have actively made the choice to choose love.  We have agreed that we will stick together no matter what.  We made a commitment to each other nineteen years ago and we have both agreed to stand behind that decision and not waiver from it.  Has it been hard?  At times.  Has it been worth it?  ABSOLUTELY!  We have an amazing marriage, we have an awesome relationship with one another, and we have the greatest family one could ask for.  You see, because of the commitment we have made to each other we have provided a safe and loving family for our children.  They don’t have to worry about one of us ever leaving, they don’t have to worry about whether or not we love each other – they can see it by the way we have chosen to live our lives – by choosing love.

So, what will you choose?  Will it be love and marriage?

I found a blog today called Sarah Markley that I think I’m really going to like. The first post I read was a guest post written by Lacey Keigley and it was about beauty’s standard.  I then discovered that it was a series Sarah was doing and she has several women writing guest posts this week on beauty.

The first one really spoke to me though because I have had similar struggles.  I struggle with not feeling beautiful and not feeling like I look “good” to the world around me.  When I was growing up I was very thin and never had to worry about weight, now that I’m older and have had children I have a weight problem.  It’s not like my weight is out of control or anything but I’m not happy with it.  I also have a thyroid problem and that’s where part of my struggle is – I don’t know if I am even capable of being a thin person anymore.  I haven’t tried to deal with the problem as much as I should have for the last few years but for a long time I did – I ate right, exercised daily, and did things like I was supposed to… and I never lost the weight.  I just kind of gave up and figured why bother!  I don’t really know how much of it is mental and how much of it is physical.  I WANT to work at it, I WANT to eat right, I WANT to exercise, I WANT to lose weight but life has just gotten in the way.   Any maybe with my thyroid condition this is as good as it gets??  I’m not eve sure.

Another issue I have with my “beauty” is my skin.  I have always had skin that breaks out – some days are better than others and it can actually look pretty decent sometimes but sometimes I break out like a teenager.  I’m 38 years old for crying out loud!  I think it’s time to have nice smooth skin for a change!  I’m going to have acne and wrinkles at the same time the way things are going and that’s just ridiculous!  So… that bothers me too.  Can you tell? :)

My hair is another issue.  I can’t stand it.  It’s straight as a board, no body, no life.  I have to wash it every day because it gets so oily.  That’s the part that bothers me the most.  If I go more than 24 hours it looks like I haven’t washed my hair in a week!  I can’t figure out how to fix that – or if I even can!  I see all of these women with gorgeous hair that has body and life, that has style, and that isn’t hanging flat against their head by the end of the day and I WANT IT!!

Beauty shouldn’t be what SOCIETY says it should be though.  True beauty is what GOD says is beautiful.  Treating others well is beautiful, taking care of our family is beautiful, showing others the love of Jesus is beautiful, and living our lives in a way that is pleasing to God is beautiful.  Those are the things that matter more.  But we, as women, really struggle with that I think.  Our society places so much emphasis on what a woman looks like and has such a strict definition of what beauty is that we fall into that trap of believing that that’s all that matters, of believing that the models and actresses reflect reality for the average woman.  It’s simply not true!

We will be much better off if we can shed that image we have created for ourselves – the one that, for me, says we have to be pencil thin with gorgeous skin and gorgeous hair.  I need to trust in God and know that if I am pleasing to Him then I am doing well.

Just as Lacey shared in her post: “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”  (Psalm 31:30)

If you want to read more about what others think of beauty and how they deal with it please click the links above or the button below.

I hope you have a beautiful day!

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One of the things that brings me great joy in life is to hear of a family that has decided they want to begin homeschooling.  Our family has been so tremendously blessed by it that it just thrills me to hear that another family is going to get to enjoy the many blessings that homeschooling provides.

Well, as I was reading blogs that I have in my Google reader this morning I came across this post that was posted on a photography blog I found recently and have enjoyed reading.  I was excited to share with her that we have been homeschooling for ten years and we absolutely love it!  A couple of the things that she asked for were advice and book suggestions and after looking through some of the comments I got to thinking… I never posted anything about what we were using this year!  Not that everyone has just been on the edge of their seat waiting, quite the contrary since I’ve hardly posted much this school year – I’ve lost most of my regular readers I think!  That’s okay though.  I don’t do this to get a huge readership – just to have a creative outlet for me and to meet whoever happens to stop by and comment.  ;)

Anyway, back to what I originally was talking about – since I never shared with you what we were using I figured better late than never!  Our school year is quickly coming to a close but I guess that will almost make it easier to share my thoughts on each book.  So, here goes!

I am homeschooling a freshman and a junior this year – here is what we are using:
(I’m sorry for the books/pictures being misaligned – I cannot get them to stay in the right spot for some reason! ugh!)

Algebra 1 – Teaching Textbooks

My son, who is a freshman, is taking this class this year.  I used this same program with my daughter so we are getting year #2 out of this set.  I absolutely love this program.  It is laid out so well – it has enough work that it teaches well, but not too much that it’s full of busy work. The CDs that you can purchase as part of the set are amazing – they show each and every problem being worked out so if you ever have trouble understanding one or figuring out how to explain it, all you have to do is pop the CD in the computer and the explanation is there.  I just can’t say enough good things about this program.

Geometry – Teaching Textbooks

We followed Algebra 1 with Algebra 2 for my daughter, who is a junior, so this year we are doing Geometry.  The same things that I said above for Algebra 1 apply here as well.  This curriculum has been wonderful for our family.  We have now used Pre-Algebra, Algebra 1, Algebra 2, and Geometry from this program and I would highly recommend all of them.

US History – Bob Jones University (BJU Press)

Both of my kids are taking US history this year.  We have not used any BJU materials since my oldest was in 2nd or 3rd grade but I have been pleased with this curriculum.  It is very thorough and covers quite a bit of information.  There is also an activity book that goes with the text and we are using that as well.  It has done a good job of reinforcing the material that they are reading in the text.   I would definitely recommend this as well.

Biology – Apologia

My son is taking Biology this year and we are using Apologia’s material.  I absolutely love their curriculum.  It is written extremely well – it’s written conversationally rather than the traditional way a textbook is written.  That makes it so much easier to read because it’s as if someone is talking to you and explaining things rather than just straight facts being presented.  I also really like it because, while it still teaches what the theory of evolution is, it teaches creationism as well.  Apologia has science curriculum from elementary all the way up through high school and I’ve loved every book we’ve ever used.   (The ones we have used are: Botany, Astronomy, General Science, Physical Science, Biology, and Anatomy. )

World Geography – Prentice Hall

I have actually written a book review on this book.  You can click here to read that.  This has been a great book and I’ve been very pleased with it as well.  I have to say that my son wasn’t as crazy about this book but overall it does a great job of presenting quite a bit of information, it has great maps in it, and it even has quite a bit of great pictures from places all around the world.

Shakespeare Literature – No Fear Shakespeare books

Both of my kids used these this year.  We have read through eight of these plays this year plus gone through the material presented in the No Fear Shakespeare A Companion book.  These have been a fabulous choice for studying Shakespeare and literature.  We have really enjoyed reading the plays as well as learning about Shakespeare himself.  The No Fear Shakespeare books are a great way to dive into Shakespeare because not only does it have the traditional Shakespeare language on one side but it has a modern day translation on the opposite page.  I think every high school student should spend some time with these books at some point – it will open up a whole new world of literature to them!

Well, those are the main books we are using this year.  I would love to hear from you if you have any experience with any of these!  Let me know what you thought of them!   :)

At the risk of making my blood pressure rise drastically, I’m going to share something with you.  A fellow homeschool mom sent me this link the other day.  It is a poll for people to vote about whether or not homeschool textbooks should be able to dismiss the theory of evolution.

Right off the bat I was a little irritated, I didn’t like how the question was worded – it sounds biased against homeschoolers from the get-go.  Homeschoolers aren’t the only ones using Christian/creation based textbooks – many private schools do as well.  And that wasn’t the point of the question anyway.  In my opinion, a better question, and less biased, might have been, “Do you believe it is okay for a textbook to teach the theory of evolution as a theory only and not as fact.”  Because that’s what they want to know right?  But the way they worded the question not only brings out all the creation haters but the homeschool haters as well.  There are people that would answer the question against homeschoolers no matter what the question was.  So, in my mind, the results are already skewed.  (And I haven’t even touched on the fact that the books they are referring to (Apologia) do NOT dismiss the theory of evolution but teach it as just that – a theory.)

Here are some direct quotes, copied and pasted from the poll, of some of the ridiculous comments just to prove my point:

  • It’s one thing to keep yourself stupid, but please stop dumbing down the future of the country.
  • Sure. It’s home school do what you want. When it comes time for my kid to compete with ignorant home schooled kids she will eat their lunch
  • This is the sort of abuse that really calls into question the whole practice of unmonitored home schooling
  • Home schooled kids do not need a reality based education if all they are going to do is grown up and work in the fast food industry.
  • Most home-schooling exists to perpetuate bigotry, religion, & other stupidity.
  • makes you wonder what else they are dismissing in their attempt to keep their kids from thinking on their own

Seriously???  I wish I could sit down and have a conversation with these people.  According to them, I am stupid, ignorant, a child abuser, and a bigot.  And my children are stupid, abused, incapable of thinking on their own, and unable to get a decent job.  And this is just a small sampling of the comments!  I wonder if they’ve ever even met a homeschooler in person.  I will never understand how people can make such hateful statements to an entire group of people (THAT THEY DON’T EVEN KNOW!) simply because they don’t do things the same way.  While I do find fault with the public school system and the poor job it seems to be doing as a whole, I would never make a blanket statement that ‘all kids who go to public schools are ignorant’ or any of the other things people say about homeschoolers.  It constantly amazes me how much stupidity, ignorance, and hate there is regarding homeschooling.  All we are doing is educating our own children!  Why are people so threatened by that???

The thing that is the most galling is that statistics show that homeschoolers far outscore their public school counterparts.  Here is some information from the National Home Education Research Institute:

The home-educated typically score 15 to 30 percentile points above public-school students on standardized academic achievement tests. (The public school average is the 50th percentile; scores range from 1 to 99.)

Homeschool students score above average on achievement tests regardless of their parents’ level of formal education or their family’s household income.

Whether homeschool parents were ever certified teachers is not related to their children’s academic achievement.

Degree of state control and regulation of homeschooling is not related to academic achievement.

Home-educated students typically score above average on the SAT and ACT tests that colleges consider for admissions.

Homeschool students are increasingly being actively recruited by colleges.

- Dr. Brian D. Ray from NHERI

That sounds to me like the homeschoolers are the ones with the better education, the better chance at better jobs, and the ones that do know how to use their minds.  I can use my own kids as an example as well.  And I’m not doing this to brag but to prove a point.  Standardized testing is not required of homeschoolers in our state so we had never participated in it up until a couple of years ago.  I don’t like tests like that because I feel there are so many better ways to measure what a child has learned than sitting them down with a paper with a bunch of dots to fill in.  Not all kids test well and not all things taught are going to be covered on those tests.  Regardless of my opinion of them though, I decided to let my kids take one a couple of years ago.  My daughter was interested in seeing how she would do and I thought it probably wouldn’t hurt to see how she scored.  Well, both of my kids (who have been homeschooled almost all the way through school – my son went to public school Kindergarten and my daughter went to public school through 1st grade and they are now in 9th and 11th respectively) scored in the 99th percentile – and that’s including all of the standardized tests taken in the nation – public schools included.

I can even go one step further.  My daughter took the ACT at the beginning of this school year (her junior year) just as a practice so she could figure out what it would be like and be better prepared her senior year so that she could give it her best at that time.  Well, she went in and took it and came away with a 29.  In case you aren’t familiar with the ACT, a 36 is a perfect score and the average score is a 20.  Needless to say, we had a little celebration the day we got her results in the mail!  I’m anxious to see how well she does when she takes it again after completing all of this year’s school work – things that were on the test that we hadn’t even gotten to yet since she took it early!

I say all of this to say one thing – homeschooling works.  There may be a lot of people who don’t understand it and a lot of people who wouldn’t do it themselves but that doesn’t mean that we are doing anything wrong.  It doesn’t mean that we are abusing our children.  It doesn’t mean that we aren’t teaching our kids to think for themselves and that they aren’t growing up to be very bright individuals and becoming great contributors to society.    And it doesn’t even mean that we aren’t teaching our kids what evolution is!

That started out being the whole point to this post but I got a little sidetracked. :)   I do want to share a few of the ridiculous comments in regards to the original question on the poll though:

  • It’s just as o.k. for home-school textbooks to dismiss the holocaust or to state that the earth is the center of the universe.

Do people really think that because we aren’t willing to have evolution shoved down our throats as fact when there is NO evidence to support it that we are going to deny the holocaust or that our universe is heliocentric?  There is overwhelming evidence to support those!

  • Teaching Evangelical Christian beliefs as science should constitute child abuse, as it deliberately deprives children of quality education.

WOW!  Again with the child abuse thing?  And I think I’ve already proven that my children have received a quality education – even by YOUR standards.

  • Is it okay for home-school textbooks to teach 2+2=5 or that a verb is really a noun? Our children need to be educated, not indoctrinated.

Umm… isn’t that what virtually every public school in America does?  Indoctrinate kids to believe a certain way?  Do they teach both sides and let the child choose or do they shove evolution down their throat and say it’s the ONLY right answer?

  • Actually, yes, but only if they also give equal time to the Tooth fairy, Leprechauns, and also explain how Noah got dinosaurs onto the Ark

When you can’t come up with a logical reason for something, throw out stupid, moronic comments.  geez!  And I’m pretty sure Noah didn’t take the largest available animal when he put each kind on the ark.  I’m thinking he probably took babies and animals that had not reached full maturity yet.

  • Science isn’t about justifying or proving theology, it’s about discovering the truth.

Amen!  I agree.  But when the truth points you away from evolution you need to be willing to pay attention instead of sweeping that under the rug and firing anyone who dares say something different.

And what did I answer on the poll?  Even though I didn’t like the wording of the question, I knew what they were going for so I answered yes.  Homeschoolers, as well as anyone else in this country, have the right to purchase any book they want and teach what they believe to be true. Interestingly enough, as I believe I pointed out earlier, the Apologia books (which started this debate I think) do not dismiss the theory of evolution.  They present the evidence and facts that exist and leave the student to decide.  We’ve used these books all through middle and high school so I am familiar with them.

I believe in teaching what evolution is but I believe in teaching creationism as true.  The Bible makes much more sense to me than Darwin’s theory of evolution.  It’s okay if others don’t agree and want to teach something different.  I’m not going to try to force you to teach what I believe and you shouldn’t try to force me.

I stand firm on the word of God though and He says that one day every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord. I believe that to be true and I would rather do that now by choice than wait until Judgment day and say it because it’s the only option left.  One day the Truth will be known.

I think I’ve said enough now.  If you’re still reading, thanks for “listening” to my rant.  :)

I recently got to spend an evening enjoying the philharmonic orchestra in our city.  They were playing the scores for many movies and it was an amazing evening!  I love music to begin with but to be in the room with an entire orchestra and to watch the musicians making music is just so powerful!  One of the composers that they showcased was John Williams.  Can I just say that that man is AMAZING!!   I’ve always thought so but I was sure reminded again.

Anyway, the point of this post is this – as I was sitting there listening to the songs that they were playing it struck me that some of these songs really define our family.  Star Wars has always been a huge thing in our family – my husband grew up loving Star Wars (as did I but not nearly as much as he did! ha!) and my children have loved it since they were wee little things.  My son has just about every Star Wars toy ever created it seems – family members got him several at each birthday, Christmas, and any other holiday that they felt a gift was necessary. :)   My husband took the kids to see all three of the newest Star Wars movies in the theater – this was a huge treat because it’s something we don’t usually do but maybe once or twice a year. All of that to say that listening to the Star Wars music brought back many fond memories of when my kids were little.  I loved it!

Another composer they showcased was Hans Zimmer.  His music for The Lion King was so beautiful!  That man is truly gifted as well!  This music also brought back fond memories because my son LOVED The Lion King for years starting from when he was about a year old.  He had all the little toys of Mufasa, Rafiki, Simba, Nulla, etc. and he would sit and play with those all of the time.  He watched the movie so many times he knew it by heart!  The case for that tape (yes, VHS tape - it was a long time ago!) is VERY worn out!  :)

So all of that to say that I am very thankful for composers and music.  They bring such a joy to my life in so many ways.  I can’t imagine life without music!

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This is one of my favorite songs right now.  It’s got so much truth to it – for everyone!  If you haven’t heard it, I hope you’ll take the time to listen to it now:  (the lyrics are also posted below if you want to read along)

What Faith Can Do

Everybody falls sometimes
Gotta find the strength to rise
From the ashes and make a new beginning
Anyone can feel the ache
You think it’s more than you can take
But you are stronger, stronger than you know
Don’t you give up now
The sun will soon be shining
You gotta face the clouds
To find the silver lining

I’ve seen dreams that move the mountains
Hope that doesn’t ever end
Even when the sky is falling
And I’ve seen miracles just happen
Silent prayers get answered
Broken hearts become brand new
That’s what faith can do

It doesn’t matter what you’ve heard
Impossible is not a word
It’s just a reason for someone not to try
Everybody’s scared to death
When they decide to take that step
Out on the water
It’ll be alright
Life is so much more
Than just what your eyes are seeing
You will find your way
If you keep believing

I’ve seen dreams that move the mountains
Hope that doesn’t ever end
Even when the sky is falling
And I’ve seen miracles just happen
Silent prayers get answered
Broken hearts become brand new
That’s what faith can do

Overcome the odds
You do have a chance
(That’s what faith can do)
When the world says you can’t
It’ll tell you that you can!

I’ve seen dreams that move the mountains
Hope that doesn’t ever end
Even when the sky is falling
And I’ve seen miracles just happen
Silent prayers get answered
Broken hearts become brand new
That’s what faith can do
Even if you fall sometimes
You will have the strength to rise

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